Father : Our Friend & Hero :)

He is friend and our hero….A Father is an angel (A guardian Angel) in our life. Who always stand’s by us during thick and thin of our life. A best friend one could probably ask for, a father brings a unique contribution to parenting that no one else can replicate. I belong to generation where fathers never said “He LOVE’s YOU”, not because they did not want to but because they really didn’t want to express their love in words ONLY! My father was strongest person who always stood by me & always tried to provide me the best of what he could- be it best education, best information and discipline. My father is my first hero and also my  friend. I have never told my dad that what I feel for him, I saw him working hard day and night for our bright future. I learnt life lessons by observing him. I adore and miss time when I used to play chess & carom with him. He is my guide and a philosopher.

Coming to the very next generation, my one year old daughter also adores her father too! When her father is back from work she only wants to be with him, she starts throwing tantrums and feels on top of the world. She plays, giggles and dances with him And I feel really overwhelmed & happy when I see them both playing together. Her father communicates in a unique and different manner with her. The interaction has different tones of language & approach.

A number of studies suggest that those fathers, who are involved and playful with their children, eventually nurture their children with better linguistic and cognitive capacities and tactics that can handle stress in a better way. I feel father & kids relation is cherish-able, It is as important as any mothers & their kids relation. If a mother gives you birth in this new world then father teaches you to survive in this world. He provides you wing to fly high. I adore my relationship with my father.

So what special we can do for our father:

  1. Tell him how much you love him.However busy you are, call him at least once a day. Ask him how his day was, did they eat etc. Just keep the conversation going and be a good listener.
  2. To make your dad happy, share some moments of your life with him. Share your daily activities, new hobbies, new friends, and details of your life with him. When you receive any awards, accolades or appreciations share it with him. It gives him immense pleasure seeing his child successful.
  3. You can always teach him how to use the latest technology. If he is not a tech savvy! For instance how to use Skype, video calling, chatting. Once a week you can have a video chat with him.
  4. You can always discuss the problems you are facing at work or can take his advice on any investment ideas. He would be so elated to share his knowledge with you. Express your wishes, and make him familiar with your goals and dreams. After all, no one can be a better friend than your dad.
  5. Spend time with him; go for dinner date with him. Your father might be an extremely busy man, or he may be reserved and silent. But one thing that he always cherishes deep down is spending time with you, in whatever way he can.

Fathers day is around so plan something for your father, Happy Fathers Week 🙂

Untold Saga Part 2

After reading my last blog Untold Saga my father narrated me one more story of my Grandfather. He said that after returning from Pakistan to India, My Grandfather took a break for some time, due to the partitions issues and the chaos created, his parents and family didn’t want him to leave home. It was after long three years that things settled down a bit and he joined The Bakhra Canal project as a Supervisor, This canal was constructed from River Sutlej through Nangal dam and the water from the dam also reaches parts of Rajasthan. Its construction was taken up first after Independence, for the welfare & development of the people of Northern India. The construction of this project was started in the year 1948 and was completed in 1963.

He was a very loyal and hard-working man. It was his sheer hard work and dedication that got him felicitated by the then Prime minister Pt. Jawahar Lal Nehru. He was awarded with Silver coins kept in a green colour velvet bag which my grandmother had treasured.

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Bhakra-Nangal Project: A view of the Nangal Hydel Canal 1952

After this project my Grandfather got transferred to Sukhna Lake project, which is currently a very beautiful lake that lies in the foothills of Shivalik range & inside Chandigarh adding scenic beauty. The unique thing about Sukhna Lake is that it is a man-made lake. My grandfather was posted there as a supervisor from early 60’s till he took his last breath in 1968…..

It was also there where a very interesting incident happened somewhere between 1960-’63. There used to be a guard working under my grandfather whose duty was to look after the water drain gates. Once, an executive engineer came to the site for inspection. He was about to enter the drain gate area for checking where the guard did stop him, not allowing the Engineer and other officials to enter that area. Well, that was his job. He was told not to allow anyone to enter that area and he was just being loyal to his job. Any ways, officials tried to convince him to let them enter as the person standing there was a big officer and he might have to face the consequences of not letting them in. Any other person hearing this would have allowed to enter for the sake of his job, but this guard struck to his decision and said he will not allow anyone to enter in any case without the permission of Pandit ji (my grandfather, people in his workplace used to address him as Pandit ji). Well this was his loyalty for his job, for his boss that fear of losing his job didn’t deter him from his loyalty towards his job.

Then executive engineer had to send his car to bring my grandfather to the site. It was only after grandpa’s order that the guard allowed to enter the drain gate area.

Then all the other officials there were concerned that executive engineer might get angry after this incident. On the contrary engineer got mighty impressed with the loyalty of the guard and rewarded him with Rs 50; it was a huge amount considering that the guard at that time was paid Rs 55 as salary for whole month. Loyalty pays.

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Sukhna Lake, Chandigarh

 

Untold Saga

I have never met my grandfather…! As he expired long before I was even born and my father was just fifteen at that time….Basically, I grew up listening about his stories from my paternal uncles and my grand pa’s sister, who is still alive.

I really feel proud of him and tell the world proudly that’s he was supervisor at the Bhakra Nangal Dam project in Himachal and Sukhna lake project in Chandigarh….

As well all know that in 1947 India was divided into two parts – Pakistan and India. A lot of lives changed. My grandfather was one of them who had experienced the partition very strongly and gone through a altogether different phase of life..

The saga of struggle and survival still rings loudly in the memories of my uncles… Once he narrated me the whole story about my grand father….He was government officer and used to work in Lahore, now in Pakistan. The year 1947 historically changed the destinies of many people and one of them was my grandfather….who was working there. People used to call him panditji….He survived with help of one Muslim guy who used to work with him.

For twenty days he continued to walk – thirsty and hungry….in one set of clothes and finally reached India with help of that one Muslim guy who helped him to reach this side of border. This clearly states that even after the geographical partition, INDIA wasn’t divided at hearts !!

A lot of untold saga of human life exists out there quietly narrating the painful struggles that people had gone through.!

Sculpting rock into colourful life!

Every day I hear news of young Intelligent and beautiful people committing suicide. Some are student, some are actresses who entertain us and some work in Multinational companies.

According to WHO statistics, one person commits suicide every 40 seconds. Suicide rates all over the world have increased by 5- 62% in the last two decades. Hardly any country is immune to this disease.

What’s disturbing is that more young people are killing themselves than ever before. So have we ever thought reason behind it?

Most people who committed suicide had done so because they didn’t like the direction their life was going so they decided to give up and end it all. Everyday life can get a lot of us down such as the pressures of working and paying bills, Inability to listen to others, lack of patience this is actually a new and unnatural pressure of human life.

It is easy for normal people to look at suicidal people with disdain, but that is only because they have not been raised with the same environment, with the same relationships, with the same people or with the same experiences as the one who is being looked down upon. Nonetheless, our differences are inevitable, for every person should carry with themselves their own individuality.

I believe one thing can make the difference and can change the world around that is positive attitude and happiness. Happiness comes from within and finding moments of inner peace and joy in our lives is beneficial not only to our health but our well being as well. Positive thought and emotion can make huge differences to our everyday lives, and are demanding change so that we can all enjoy life and there’s no need for suffering or negative emotions.

A positive attitude leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but it also affects your environment and the people around you.

Parents, society and friends all need to work together to decrease no of suicidal tendency:

Parents: Many youngsters kill themselves because peer pressure from parents…they cannot fulfil expectation of parents. All of them thought that Death was a much peaceful and effortless action than going through this dilemma of artificially doing what parents want them to do. Child actually observes parents and never follows anything blindly. If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature healthy thoughts. Child analyses and looks at the parents to see whether any of those things preached are followed by parents to begin with…

Don’ts : never make the child go through hardship to realize your dreams and also don’t do over pampered care. Both are harmful. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive.

Do’s : Give time to your kids, understand their needs…Make them happy and positive person…let them believe in their dreams…you can teach them good and bad but in positive way. Set your practical examples in front of them. Become their inspiration. Make them to learn patience and disciplined in positive way. Teach them to handle difficult situation peacefully in positive manner. Base should always be right…So childhood is most important phase to learn how to keep positive and healthy mind.

Hand together love family sign

Society: Life is full of stress, pressure and conflict. It may not always seem fair. Sometimes, it may seem to all be beyond our ability to control. Yet, the world is none other than what we have made it to be. How do we make a positive change? The truth is that the change must take place within us. The only thing we can truly control is ourselves. You can change society with your positive attitude. A positive attitude begins with a healthy self – image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self – assured, you also make others are around feel the same way. Stay away from negative thoughts and negative energy as it makes you sick and drain all your energy. Make this world a happy place!!!

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Friends: Studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude further have more friends. Friends play very important role in life. Look after your friends, make sure they are okay. Sometimes they are going through things that are really heavy,but they might not say it. Friends are one who always understands each other feelings. Projecting a positive attitude helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude. Always promote positive attitude among friends….Stay positive, help your friends when they need you.

Love and care helps to make healthy and positive life.
LIVE LIFE KING-SIZE !!!

Inspiration : Learning For Life!!!


I use to see her every morning at 6:30am from my balcony doing yoga with her husband and reading books for him in the park. One fine morning I introduce myself and my husband to her. She had one in a million smile to win the hearts of many. A versatile personality in her eighties, wife of retired Squarden leader from Air Force.

Then for a while I got busy with my work and we relocated at a different place. Where l could not hear any thing from her for almost 2 years.

This holi in 2016 I met her again in some common friends gathering, I asked her, where is uncle….she told me he passed away last year…I felt sad to know that.!!! I took a long pause and kept quiet for a while.. then I asked her how does she pass her time now…and the reply was really inspiring which shook me from toe to head, she said that she has enrolled for two diploma courses and taking care of uncle’s books that he had written and the paper work left behind, I was impressed! I didn’t had words to express my feeling about the courageous emotion that she just displayed through her glittering eye. A real inspiration for youngsters to follow. She proved that age is no bar at all if one wants to learn at any point of time! All you need is some inspiration, and even I believe this strongly !!!

Learning is a continuous process and the true learner always looks avenues to learn from anybody and everybody. There is no bar on learners age or the age of the teacher. People learn from their success, achievements and failure. Learning is possible at every stage of life.

A young child can teach you something which you may have not learnt till now. Similarly, every old and poor man can teach you something very new and important.

No matter what your age is you can always start learning something.

Nowadays we have access to so much information through our computers, internets, websites that it is really easy to learn new stuff. So it’s good to keep learning lifelong.
Lifelong learning is about creating and maintaining positive attitude to learn both for personal and professional development. Lifelong learning can enhance our understanding of the world around us. It also help us to improve quality of our life.
There are many benefits of lifelong learning like it keep us involved as active contributor to society. Lifelong learning help us to adapt change, it increase our wisdom. It create a curious mind and leads to enriching and self fulfilment. It help us to make world better place.
And last but not the least it gives us courage to LIVE & Let Live !!!

No one enjoy loneliness. And through lifelong learning older people make new friends and establish valuable relationship. Keeping your mind open and inviting new and innovative ideas to flow in is the best medicine for long life.

So, I feel one should keep on adding to their knowledge for betterment of society and for self growth & development 🙂